I think my love language is “Words of Affirmation”.
I’ve always paid more attention to words and what they mean and the tone of how the person says it.
Words are used everyday in our lives to communicate, sometimes used for good and sometimes used for bad. Sometimes they make us strong and other times weak. Which is fascinating to me. One time, when I was feeling down for being a different ethnicity than my family, my parents encouraged me by saying they wanted me to be in their family. They said a lot more but that stood out to me. It was genuine and it helped me cope with the doubt. Of course, I still need confirmation, but the way they said it and how they expressed it, I will always remember.
I remember a time that my brother, Alex, and his girlfriend Emily, invited me to hang out with them. I was hesitant because I wanted to be alone but I accepted the offer anyways. It was a fun time and I loved it. I still think of how we were singing and just having a good time.
Once, when I broke down crying, Alex hugged me and told me how special I was. He told me a lot of personal things and it made me feel valued to hear such things. He told me that he was proud that I was his sister and that he was my brother. I still look back on that and feel grateful for his encouraging words.
Most people don’t think they’re good with words, but I would disagree. All you need to do is give a few words of kindness like “How are you doing?” or “Did you know that you’re amazing?” If it’s genuine and real, I think you can achieve more than you think. For example, my friend called me about some fears she was having. So I did what most friends would do. Support her. Comfort her. Make her feel valued. All you need is a few words to give some love away.
I’m a quiet person but words are significant to me. My love language is “Words of Affirmation” and that’s the most effective way of receiving love to me. If you know someone’s love language, use that information wisely and communicate with them by that language. For me, hurtful words or fake tones really hurt me. For someone who has the love language of “Words of Affirmation” make sure to let them know how loved they are and how you cherish them.
Thanks for letting me share, Good luck and best regards,
Julia Mathis is 10th grader at Peachtree Ridge High School. She is quite storm of wisdom and love. She gives her heart to many things without asking for anything in return. Thank you Julia and the Mathis family for sharing your hearts here at the Merger.